Our Testimony

How we met

2017 The beginning

We first came into the same room as each other late 2016. I was starting a Youtube series recording for an artist (Naomi Raine) that he was a musician for. At the time neither of us was in a place to even notice each other. I was already going through the aftermath of my abortion a couple month prior to that so my head was not inn jumping into any other relationship. Also I wasn’t a christian and I really just saw this as a job opportunity to find myself again. My older sister already had a relationship with naomi when they were in highshool so she new me when I was a very young girl, that being said I was already familiar with her.

We stopped filming for couple month after that and I didnt return back until spring 2017 when I came back from my trip to Nigeria I had an experience that didn’t sit with me well. Something told me I should hit Naomi up again to find out if she still wanted to continue working. She told me yes and that is when I started coming back around. The first day of that rehearsal I saw everyone outside and adale was one of them I went over and gave the guys a hug because I remembered them from last time. Adale was surprised to receive a hug from me because he didn’t remember I was at the rehearsal a couple months prior. I continued on as usual I knew he had his eyes on me but I really wasn’t looking for much but to just do my job.

I started traveling around with them and Naomi told me what the deal was ( Mr. Jackson is crushin). I was a bit shy and didn’t really know what to say, I was interested but also on edge about it. I was now starting to consider this God thing and becoming a christian I didn’t a relationship to get in the way of that and getting to know God. He also knew that I was in such a new place that he had to be very carful on his approach.

We both decided that we would jut focus on having a friendship as I figured out my journey. I would even write things in my journal like “ lord if this is a distraction from you just ripped him out my life now lol” I just could afford a loss. We had our first lunch date at this spot called commodore in williamsburg. Ladies and Gents I paid for the bill (total buzz kill) Thats to tell you how controlling I was. I just saw it as mean to protect myself, I felt as though I don’t need anybody to take of care of me plus if we’re just friends then it shouldn’t be to big of a deal (awkward). I didn’t see much wrong with it except I just took the ballz right from a guy that was going to be my husband. YIKES! He definitely looked at me like I was crazy and to be honest I was okay with it.

Time goes on and we continue to develop our friendship until we finally get to the summer of August 2017. It was such a pivotal point for me, I decided to get baptized and fully commit to life with God (BEST decision ever made) and we decide to become official. There were many late nights talking until the sun came up, long walks, long convos. One day we were parked outside of my parents house and I remember hearing God saying to me “this is the one”. Now I did not share that with adale at all because I didn’t want to come off as this crazy person, PLUS I wanted to get confirmation outside of myself that I heard what I heard. Another day after that I was standing in the kitchen at naomis house and gary and adale were over working on music while nay and I was in the kitchen preparing to cook. She turned to me and goes “ You know you two are going to get married right?” I lie to you not I dropped to the floor because im dramatic like that, the guys came into the room and im like “nothing”. I eneded up telling to her what happened to me in the car with him just a while ago. Naomi now spiritual mother confirmed it to me and thats when I knew it was god. She continued to share with me not to say anything and allow god to reveal that to him but told me not to say anything to him. Believe me I wasn’t going to.

So I kept myself silent and counted to build my relationship with him and God. I didn’t pray no witch craft prayers because I know the people want to go assuming that so let me just make it super clear it did not happen. I heard what god told me and spoke nothing of it. The most important thing to me during that time was really discovering my life as a christian. It wasn’t to long after adale began to speak in code (marriage code) He started to tell me how committed he was to our relationship and that he sees what God is doing. Finally when he shared that he believed I was his wife I opened up to him about what the lord had shared with me a couple weeks ago. It all served as confirmations.

Adale proposed to me February 2019 on valentines day.

By August 2019 we got married

We’ve faced many challenges during these time. We both had a lot of unexpected changes happening all around us. We were so busy traveling ministering with naomi and just growing. I am so happy to say that this process was so Gods plan. I could have never guessed or imagined my life would be where it is today in just a blink of an eye.

I really believe I need to to say this for those of you who believe God has called you to the unusual. We had a lot of people looking at us like we were insane, and in fact we were definitely not doing the “norm” out of the ordinary but one thing I knew is that we are called to faith and the unusual. That means some people just won’t get it. We both lost really close friendships during this transition and went through by far the most trouble living up to other peoples expectations. But ones things for sure If I had gone on to believing the opinion and oppositions from others I would not have received the many blessings I have today. I know God ordain this marriage and our unity and what god brings together let no man tear apart. So I pray that you wouldn’t be limited to the opinions of others, definitely seek wise counsel from leaders as we did. I don’t encourage you to jump into something God isn’t saying. I love all who has supported us and love all who has denied us. Im making it clear that not everything we say or do will be accepted by everyone but that won’t stop either of us from giving the same love and grace God has given to us. It’s a journey and we’ve grown to trust the process.

First Year Of Marriage

Remember the feeling when you were in school? Studying, working hard for passing grade? Or like me. Not studying enough but had lots of potential. Marriage is like school. The more you work hard at it. The better chances you have at passing. Simple right? Lol

The first year of my marriage was challenging and even after the year it still is. Not the bad kind of challenge though. I’d like to compare it to preparing for a marathon. These first couple years will prepare us for the long journey ahead. I believe the more I get myself ready and prepared. The better the outcome. I like marriage because it shows me I can grow much further than I think. It inspires me as a woman and matures me as a friend. I learn how to love others better through my marriage. I also learn things I actually don’t like and tend to avoid. Marriage so far has caused me to think of somebody other than myself on a greater level. That my first year in a nutshell.

i’m going to end this right here. More to come. I’m still learning.

How I Love Him

I have to do this for the sake of my marriage. Loving another person other than yourself can be pretty difficult. Not to mention, learning what love actually consist of might rewrite your whole dream. That was me. When Adale and I got married I never knew that my butt would be handed to me. Because I thought i was such a complete ready person (barely any flaws) I already had a level of pride set in place. I thought to myself, all we have to do is work through “his problems” as we walk through my new life with Christ. Well if that wasn’t a set up, I don’t know what was. I was walking right into a truth that I knew nothing of. As more of me was exposed, less of me saw the value in my pride. I had to come to reality that i was actually a lot more controlling, reserved, scared than I intended to be. I didn’t know how to be really vulnerable. I’d mastered how to not be fully connected to my partner by protecting myself from him. That meant I was in control of how things went. At any moment I was prepared to just be done and leave. That shows you how vulnerably desolate I was. Even if that turned out to be the scenario “which is came close” I always had this other gut puntching feeling in my heart of pain that I’d be making a bad decision. One that I didn’t want to show AT ALL because I kept telling myself “I’m not weak toughen up, you’ll get through it like you always have”. This time around it was just different, I didn’t want to start over again and I realized I have a real issue. I dont even know myself well enough to love my own partner the way Christ loved me.  My identity was wrapped up in my own protection of myself. As my relationship with God built stronger, all my impurities was having a party in the light. It was a mirror moment. I really thought to myself “man I don’t want him to reserve himself from me, I really do want to love him the way God loves him.”

If I could just hold his heart and care for it that would be an honor, a privilege. To see his eyes without any walls, to hug and and feel his weight on mine unguarded, to listen to his words and hear a leader, daddy, friend, son, husband, lover, all in one is a gift. To hold his strong hands and still feel the gentle security of a worrier is what I want. When I think on these I just have no choice but to open up myself to my husband. When I began to look at him for the identity god gave him, I learn to love him more. I’m still there, learning. I haven’t arrived and I’ll never just arrive but I’ll keep arriving with him. Going to deeper levels I’m starting to take note on the little things. The things that go unnoticed when your to consumed in life and yourself. This also act as a mirror for me because when I think this way I begin to see the  incredible woman I can be, I begin to think on my values if I would just learn to love and respect my husband, I see me as a helper, covering, lover, care taker, leader, a mom (to be). Let just say “I see the bone from his back and flesh of his flesh” Lol (paraphrased) Genesis 2:23. 

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