How we met
2017 The beginning
We first came into the same room as each other late 2016. I was starting a Youtube series recording for an artist (Naomi Raine) that he was a musician for. At the time neither of us was in a place to even notice each other. I was already going through the aftermath of my abortion a couple month prior to that so my head was not inn jumping into any other relationship. Also I wasn’t a christian and I really just saw this as a job opportunity to find myself again. My older sister already had a relationship with naomi when they were in highshool so she new me when I was a very young girl, that being said I was already familiar with her.
We stopped filming for couple month after that and I didnt return back until spring 2017 when I came back from my trip to Nigeria I had an experience that didn’t sit with me well. Something told me I should hit Naomi up again to find out if she still wanted to continue working. She told me yes and that is when I started coming back around. The first day of that rehearsal I saw everyone outside and adale was one of them I went over and gave the guys a hug because I remembered them from last time. Adale was surprised to receive a hug from me because he didn’t remember I was at the rehearsal a couple months prior. I continued on as usual I knew he had his eyes on me but I really wasn’t looking for much but to just do my job.
I started traveling around with them and Naomi told me what the deal was ( Mr. Jackson is crushin). I was a bit shy and didn’t really know what to say, I was interested but also on edge about it. I was now starting to consider this God thing and becoming a christian I didn’t a relationship to get in the way of that and getting to know God. He also knew that I was in such a new place that he had to be very carful on his approach.
We both decided that we would jut focus on having a friendship as I figured out my journey. I would even write things in my journal like “ lord if this is a distraction from you just ripped him out my life now lol” I just could afford a loss. We had our first lunch date at this spot called commodore in williamsburg. Ladies and Gents I paid for the bill (total buzz kill) Thats to tell you how controlling I was. I just saw it as mean to protect myself, I felt as though I don’t need anybody to take of care of me plus if we’re just friends then it shouldn’t be to big of a deal (awkward). I didn’t see much wrong with it except I just took the ballz right from a guy that was going to be my husband. YIKES! He definitely looked at me like I was crazy and to be honest I was okay with it.
Time goes on and we continue to develop our friendship until we finally get to the summer of August 2017. It was such a pivotal point for me, I decided to get baptized and fully commit to life with God (BEST decision ever made) and we decide to become official. There were many late nights talking until the sun came up, long walks, long convos. One day we were parked outside of my parents house and I remember hearing God saying to me “this is the one”. Now I did not share that with adale at all because I didn’t want to come off as this crazy person, PLUS I wanted to get confirmation outside of myself that I heard what I heard. Another day after that I was standing in the kitchen at naomis house and gary and adale were over working on music while nay and I was in the kitchen preparing to cook. She turned to me and goes “ You know you two are going to get married right?” I lie to you not I dropped to the floor because im dramatic like that, the guys came into the room and im like “nothing”. I eneded up telling to her what happened to me in the car with him just a while ago. Naomi now spiritual mother confirmed it to me and thats when I knew it was god. She continued to share with me not to say anything and allow god to reveal that to him but told me not to say anything to him. Believe me I wasn’t going to.
So I kept myself silent and counted to build my relationship with him and God. I didn’t pray no witch craft prayers because I know the people want to go assuming that so let me just make it super clear it did not happen. I heard what god told me and spoke nothing of it. The most important thing to me during that time was really discovering my life as a christian. It wasn’t to long after adale began to speak in code (marriage code) He started to tell me how committed he was to our relationship and that he sees what God is doing. Finally when he shared that he believed I was his wife I opened up to him about what the lord had shared with me a couple weeks ago. It all served as confirmations.
Adale proposed to me February 2019 on valentines day.
By August 2019 we got married
We’ve faced many challenges during these time. We both had a lot of unexpected changes happening all around us. We were so busy traveling ministering with naomi and just growing. I am so happy to say that this process was so Gods plan. I could have never guessed or imagined my life would be where it is today in just a blink of an eye.
I really believe I need to to say this for those of you who believe God has called you to the unusual. We had a lot of people looking at us like we were insane, and in fact we were definitely not doing the “norm” out of the ordinary but one thing I knew is that we are called to faith and the unusual. That means some people just won’t get it. We both lost really close friendships during this transition and went through by far the most trouble living up to other peoples expectations. But ones things for sure If I had gone on to believing the opinion and oppositions from others I would not have received the many blessings I have today. I know God ordain this marriage and our unity and what god brings together let no man tear apart. So I pray that you wouldn’t be limited to the opinions of others, definitely seek wise counsel from leaders as we did. I don’t encourage you to jump into something God isn’t saying. I love all who has supported us and love all who has denied us. Im making it clear that not everything we say or do will be accepted by everyone but that won’t stop either of us from giving the same love and grace God has given to us. It’s a journey and we’ve grown to trust the process.