Well I know this one might raise some questions. But let me just dive right in.
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Some things I say may be offensive. I apologize for the way it might make you feel.
If your single and reading this and you have a best friend, chances are the title may have you to thinking why? Let me break it down it’s it’s simplist form. In most cases our best friends become our “best girlfriends” aka girlfriend. We do everything with them, they know us so well that they could guess what we’d say or want and even wear without us having to say a word. Your “bestfriend” probably rates every guy you’ve ever been with and let’s you know “yay or nay”. Your best friend will DEFEND your honor and speak well of you. You guys might even argue like a couple (that you practically are) but then make up the next days with some drinks and food going back to usual. Your best friend would be a description of what your boyfriend/future husband should be like. And even in your dreams for marriage you expect your husband to love your best friend the same way you do like one big happy family.
Now I want to point out that maybe what you read wasn’t everything if not close to what you expect. And you might not see anythinggggg wrong with that. But I’m here to tell you friend that there’s actually A LOT wrong with that.
Your “friendship” may be cockblocking your chance of even having a relationship.
Your husband will not be a woman
Lack of boundaries
soul tie
Listen I’m talking from experience. Sometimes we put our girlfriends first to often. You have to learn how to set necessary boundaries with your friendships. It cannot be all that you eat live and breath. Because you’re not left with any space to just be a Human and meet other people. How can you expect for a man to notice you in this way if you haven’t even gone one place ALONEEEEE? How can you have time for someone your not available for. If I can go in your page right now. I bet I can guess what’s on it. A bunch of selfies of you, some of you and your bestie and the many places you traveled to because your life is so amazing. Yet there’s one thing missing, and it’s important to you. It’s a husband. If your friend is angry with you because you missed her call then something is wrong. Nobody should have that control over you. It’s not healthy, and some of you may consider that love and care but to be honest it’s the exact opposite. Love gives you freedom it doesn’t control. If you find that you can’t go anywhere without company of your best friend, there’s an issue because you can’t see yourself without that person. That’s a soul tie. I’m not telling you this so that you go and burn up every close relationship you have. But I have to ask you. Have you set any boundaries with your friendships? You have to be able to see yourself living without that person and still being okay. This kind of stuff is dangerous. It might be scary to think of but it’s reality. Don’t live in that fantasy world it’s only soothing for now until one of you end up in a serious relationship. Watch how things unfold.
I’ve had to redefine what a friendship really is and that meant losing friends that didn’t agree it was “the way” but if your being there for them is the compromise then I’d tell you it’s for the best. Sometimes you have to make room for Prince Charming to even see you and a lot of friendships today get in the way of that. Spend some time alone and get to know yourself apart from others. Maybe it’s not your husband you’ll find, maybe it’s your identity.